What to do about your Ideal Man / Ideal Woman LIST?

While I advocate for everyone to know their non-negotiables attributes of an ideal partner, it is also imperative to be fair. Do you have what it takes to give back ?

My mother is a straightlaced, frank type of a woman. Probably because of her age and aging mind, she barely cares about her censoring her opinions. She understands that she is not a sensual lover as my dad, though my dad tried various method of videos and gentle coaxing to get my mother (who almost became a nun) to shed her conservative nature. Alas, it is not happening. Not even after about 50 years of marriage.

On my mother's list is to marry a man who is responsible enough, handsome enough and evenly-tempered enough. Her non-negotiables are: a man who doesn't hit a woman and who doesn't force to do anything more than the basics in the bed area. Did I mentioned she applied for nun-ship?

She is pretty much content with her marriage because her list were fairly simply. On the other hand, my romantic father thought she can change my mother. Probably, in his list, at number 275 is a sweet, sensual woman. His catwoman fantasy will not come into fruition because his priority was a virtuous woman who almost vowed celibacy forever. Almost.

Know who you are and get realistic with your list.