Why Strong Attraction turns into Nightmare?

If you are dating (or married) using your cerebral cortex, the logical part of the brain, then this does Not apply to you. Dating because of family pressure, religious and societal bucket list cannot turn into a nightmare on a deeper emotional sense , as Dr. Henrick Harville explains. True emotional healing that leads to amazing growth occurs in the unconscious.

Nature or God has programmed us to meet a person that we are genuinely, unexplainably and irresistably drawn towards to because our childhood has unfinished business that needs to be healed. In essence, that person becomes a mirror to your deepest need. If you were not heard as a child, you will look at your partner as the lost bond you are yearning for. Therefore, it is best to be vulnerable and honest about your childhood to your genuine partner. If that person accepts you and you accept him, then true healing start.

If not, then wait again to meet that 1-in-a-billion person. Or be like most people: rationalize your way to attraction and prepare to tolerate each other in your 60s.